“Body love is more than acceptance of self or the acceptance of the body. Body love is about self-worth in general. It’s more than our physical appearance.” ~Mary Lambert
Learning to feel confident, grateful and comfortable in our bodies is something that doesn’t always come naturally, and it’s something that can be a great source of stress for most women. A lot of people could look at me and assume I’ve never felt similar pressure as I’m slim, but I truly believe no matter your size, we’re all susceptible to feeling the pressures of looking a certain way.
My consultations stem from the knowledge that looking good and feeling good are incredibly interlinked. My brand message is to link mindfulness, style and wellness as the three pillars every woman needs to know in order to create a fulfilling and empowered life. And that all starts with the way we feel about ourselves and our bodies.
So I’ve put together three healthy habits to cultivate in order to start loving yourself and your body right here, right now.
1) Clarify how you want to feel in your body and why
Just like with any other goal in life, you have to know where you’re going and why. So get really clear on the types of feelings you want to have about your body and your sense of self-esteem. Grab your pen and journal and ask yourself the question ‘How would I like to feel in my body?’ and write down absolutely everything that comes to mind.
These types of questions allow us to forget where we are and get lost in the moment of endless possibilities. They allow us to connect with our inner selves and our deepest feelings/aspirations. After you’ve written all of these things down, the next important step is to ask yourself ‘why?’… you may need to ask yourself ‘why?’ quite a few times before you truly allow yourself to delve deep within your subconscious thoughts.
Your why is going to be key in helping you stay on track every time you feel like giving up. Your ‘why’ is the intrinsic motivation we all need in order to keep pushing towards a more healthy, confident and empowered self.
2) Focus on doing things that make you feel great in your skin.
Doing something because you enjoy it is far more productive than forcing yourself to do something you hate. Experiment when it comes to exercising and do more of what you enjoy and let go of the rest.
Releasing the need to lose weight and instead focusing on all the ways it makes you feel better, more confident, more energised, and even more social, is a far better way of staying focused. It’s also a positive psychology technique whereabouts you shift the way you’re viewing the situation from a negative, like ‘I have to lose weight’ which implies you’re not good enough right now, to ‘I really enjoy making myself stronger, happier and fitter’.
I know it sounds a lot easier said than done, but your words have power and words must be followed by action. So make sure both of them are work to your benefit and make you feel more at ease in whatever way you choose to improve yourself. Anything is possible when you let go of the outcome and follow what feels right for you and your body.
3) Use the power of gratitude for your body
Gratitude, as I’ve mentioned before, is one of the most powerful tools you can use when making a big shift. By re-adjusting how you perceive your body, you open up new perspectives on how your body looks and feels to you in a more positive light.
When you start to tune into all the wonderful ways your body is a blessing, you quickly realise it’s something that you need to take care of, nurture, cherish and be grateful for. I know it’s cliche but your body really is your temple and when you treat it well, it will always looks after you in return.
So I want you to get out your journal again and write down at least 10 ways in which you are grateful (or if that seems a little too much for you right now, re-phrase the question ‘In my ideal mind, where I’m kind to myself, what could I be grateful for in my body?’. This could be anything from ‘I’m grateful for my ability to get from A & B with relative ease’ or ‘I’m grateful that my body enables me to take part in dance classes with my friends’.
Through this practise of positive, self-loving thoughts you start to realise you are far more than just your body. You’re a person who is more than capable of doing and achieving anything you set your mind to, and if you can inspire this change in yourself, you could inspire this in someone else.
So I urge you to use this journey to make a huge positive shift not only in your own life but those around you too.