Body confidence is a common issue among all of us (men included). We’re constantly reaching for a new level of confident. Wishing for bigger bums, bigger boobs, smaller thighs, less cellulite, longer legs… I could go on forever!
But the saddest part of all? Whilst we’re busy ripping our bodies to shreds, we forget to be grateful for the incredible machine we’ve been blessed with. It’s strong, it allows us to go from a to b, it fights off diseases for us, breaths for us, and literally carries us through life.
So I want to help you forget all the things you wish were different about your bodies, and recognise, celebrate and appreciate all the amazing things you do have!
1. Learn to shift your perspective
This one forms the basis of changing any bad habit so it’s a great place to start. Whenever you feel yourself about to criticise the way your body looks. Stop… pause… take a deep breathe and shift your focus to a part of your body that you do love. Positivity breeds positivity and when you’re able to suddenly shift yourself to a more healthy, happy place, you’re able to detach from those negative thoughts. Then from a loving place look back at what you were previously looking at and force yourself to name ONE thing that you do love about that area. This habit repeated over time will allow you the clarity to view certain body parts from a more positive and healthy light. Positivity breeds positivity.
2. List all the amazing qualities and things you’ve been able to do because of your body
Omg if you were to write all the AMAZING things your body has allowed you to do, I think you’d be shocked at how long the list is! It’s so important to remember why we need to be so grateful for our vessels in life. It could be things like having a baby, hiking up a mountain, a gym session, going for a run, surviving an operation, literally anything where you can be like ‘damn… without my body that would have been impossible!’
3. Talk to yourself like you would your BFF
I’m a stickler for monitoring self-talk. It’s the strongest relationship we have and therefore the most important. It literally shapes and frames how we view ourselves and the world around us. It changes the way people view us too and the vibes they pick up from us. So what does yours say? If you’re not talking to yourself like you would your BFF, then hunny, that needs to change! You ARE your BFF and you’re the only person you’re guaranteed for the rest of your life (a bit of a hard pill to swallow I know). Show yourself some kindness and revel in the beauty that is you!
4. Do things that just make you FEEL good
There’s nothing better than booking out time for yourself to do something that makes you feel like a queen! This could be hanging out with loved ones, volunteering for a charity close to your heart, or pampering yourself! Whatever that secret sauce is for you, use it! Make sure you develop and stick to a self-care ritual that sees you constantly replenishing, re-energising and restoring your body , mind and spirit so that you don’t hit rock bottom.
5. Buy yourself some sexy lingerie
I don’t know about you, but whenever I’m feeling low and lacking some confidence I take myself lingerie shopping! It makes me feel sexy, feminine and strong. I think we probably all feel our most vulnerable and exposed in lingerie and that’s why it’s so powerful. If you can learn to love yourself in the rarest most vulnerable moments when it’s just you and your body, then there’s nothing that can hold you back! If you don’t believe me, give it a try. You don’t have to buy anything (I’m a huge fan of window shopping lol, mainly because my bank account says otherwise), just the act of trying things on and seeing how they fit, what they feel like on your skin! And if you’re feeling extra saucy, bring your partner along… because they often love our bodies how we need to start loving them!
6. Create a list of positive affirmations and repeat them daily
I love a good positive affirmation. In fact I have notebooks filled with positive affirmations. Create yourself a list of at least twenty body-positive affirmations like:
‘My body deserves my love and respect’
‘I’m grateful for all the incredible things my body allows me to do’
‘My body is perfect the way that it is and I honor it in this state’
‘I thank the food I eat for nourishing my body and making me stronger’
‘I am beautiful’
Because you know what, you only get one body and you are utterly gorgeous.