Empowering yourself by learning how to be independent, is one of the most incredible gifts that you could ever give to yourself. People make the mistake time and time again, of surrendering their power to other people/ material things, in the hopes that they will be their answer to finding happiness. Handing over that control to things outside of yourself is what leads to disappointment, heart break and overall sadness and pain.
Independence is something my parents always instilled in me and my little sister. It’s almost become default for me, and if anything I’ve had to learn about the balance between being strong, independent and learning when to depend on others too.
But here are five of the most satisfying benefits to cultivating your independence and knowing that at the end of the day, you’ve got this!
1) It increases your self confidence and self-esteem
Knowing that you can take care of yourself, do things by yourself for yourself is one of the best things you can do for your confidence. A boost in self-confidence is what allows you trust in your abilities to look after yourself. A boost in self-esteem allows you to change the way you view yourself in a more positive and uplifting light. Therefore independence has the ability to instil in you a sense of high-value and worth, making you an overall more confident and empowered person!
2) It allows you to be an asset to those around you who may need your help
By successfully taking care of your own needs, you allow yourself to be of value to others when they need help. Needing help is not a bad thing and definitely isn’t a weakness. We’re all human, and therefore we all need help from others every now and again. My favourite saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup” is a powerful reminder to myself to take care of myself first, so that I am able to take care of those around me. Life is all about how much you are able to give, and independence gives you the tools and skills to be able to give with a healthy balance.
3) It puts you in control of your own destiny
You are the sole controller of your life, so don’t put that power in someone else’s hands. Learning to be comfortable with yourself reminds you that you get to decide how you want your life to be, one small step at a time. It’s both an introspective and empowering process that we all have to learn in life. Independent people tend to be a lot happier in life, and go after what they want simply because they’re not waiting for the permission or approval of others. So first figure out what it is that you want, and go get it!
4) It allows you to be emotionally independent; something that is crucial for healthy relationships
When you don’t rely on others to meet your emotional needs, you provide them with the freedom to want to be in your life for all the right reasons. It also takes away any pressure or neediness for them to fill some sort of ‘void’ in your life that only you can fill. It’s so important to make the relationship we have with ourselves more important than the ones we develop with others. This isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. It will ultimately lead you to attracting healthy relationships in all areas of your life, because you recognise that everything you think you need from others ,you’re able to give to yourself. This is powerful!
5) It leads to a happier, healthier and more confident you!
Similar to point one, I strongly believe that independence leads to happiness. Independence isn’t without it’s challenges, and although I’ve always been incredibly independent from a young age, I have also struggled to not place my worth in the opinions of others. When you are able to meet your own needs, you realise that happiness and everything you want in life is in your hands. You’ll go through life and unfortunately lose things you love, you’ll be disappointed because something didn’t turn out how you wanted, and these can all be lessened when we appreciate ourselves as the incredible gifts that we are.